Trumps time in office.

[AlleyCat]

On Mon, 09 Dec 2024 17:45:42 +0000, marg says...

Remember when he was a dictator? Remember when he took away all our
rights? Remember when the country fell apart?
Yea, neither do I.

Give it time.

To be even more successful than before?

OK

No CHINESE weapon of mass infection and no Democrat lockdowns which DID make
the country fall apart... no problem.

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Trump WINS!

Donald Trump is the 47th U.S. president, defeating Vice President Kamala
Harris.

Republican Donald Trump was elected President of the United States in the 2024
election, defeating Vice President Kamala Harris.

Trump, 78, will begin his second term early next year.

Donald Trump will be inaugurated as the U.S. President on Monday, January 20,
2025, on the West Front of the U.S. Capitol in Washington, D.C.

A Second Trump Administration

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1. Low to NO and flat inflation

2. Gas prices drop

3. Best Economic Optimism in 16 years

4. 480,000 Manufacturing Jobs added since President Trump's election

5. US job openings rise outnumber the unemployed by 1 million

6. Economic Growth Has Reached 3 Percent for the First Time in More than a
Decade

7. Opportunity Zones A New Dawn for Economic Opportunity

8. Unemployment Rate Falls to Lowest Level in Nearly 50 Years

9. Proclamation on Adjusting Imports of Steel into the United States

10. LARGEST DECLINE IN DRUG PRICES IN NEARLY 50 YEARS

11. Trump Policies Keep Economic Boom Going As Job Gains of 304000 Surpass
Expectations

12. MORE AMERICANS WORKING NOW THAN EVER BEFORE IN OUR HISTORY

13. 250K JOBS ADDED IN OCTOBER

14. Manufacturing Confidence at an ALL TIME HIGH

15. Construction Jobs up more than 300K compared to last year

16. Food Stamp usage declines for 8 straight months

17. Middle Class income rises to HIGHEST on record

18. Consumer Confidence 18 YEAR HIGH

19. America is now the worlds largest oil producer

20. Fastest growing pace in 14 years for manufacturers

21. BLACK UNEMPLOYMENT RECORD LOW

22. Jobless claims lowest level since 1969

23. Trump secures 2026 World Cup for the USA

24. Consumer Confidence Highest in 18 years

25. Black Business Ownership Under Trump JUMPS 400 PERCENT in ONE YEAR

26. Youth Unemployment Hits 52 Year Low

27. Black Support for Trump DOUBLES to 29 percent

28. RECORD Number of Employed - 63 Percent labor participation

29. Worker pay rate hits highest level since 2008

30. Black and Hispanic Unemployment rates hit record low in April

31. Business Investments up 39 Percent Due to Tax Cuts
32. Food Stamp Usage Drops Half Million in Single Month

33. Highest Ever Manufacturer Optimism over 94 Percent

34. Unemployment claims have fallen to a 45-year low

35. Trump Economy Explodes Record Number of Americans Employed Stocks Soar

36. FEB JOBS BLOWOUT 313K

37. GREAT AGAIN Household Net Worth Pushes Further Into Record Territory

38. U.S. Consumer Confidence Is at 17-Year High

39. US homebuilding permits soar to highest level since 2007

40. Economy to grow at 5.4% rate in first quarter

41. Roaring: Economic Optimism Index hits 13-year high, credit to tax cuts

42. U.S. jobless claims drop to near 45-year low

43. Wages jump to highest level since 2009 - up 2.9%

44. U.S. Oil Production Tops 10 Million Barrels A Day, First Time Since 1970

45. Trump Decreases Debt to GDP Ratio - First Time in Over 50 Years!

46. Jobless claims drop to lowest level in nearly 45 years

47. Apple to Invest $350 BILLION in US citing Trump Tax Plan

48. Utilities cutting rates, cite benefits of Trump tax reform

49. Over 100 companies giving 'Trump Bonuses' after tax victory

50. Black unemployment rate falls to record low

51. Trump adds 184,000 manufacturing jobs and continues growth trend

52. Manufacturing in the U.S. Just Accelerated to Its Best Year Since 2004

53. Trump Signs Korean Trade Deal

54. Trump Blocks Chinese Purchase of Qualcomm due to National Security

55. TRUMP SIGNS TARIFF ORDER ON STEEL AND ALUMINUM

56. Trump Slaps 30% Tariffs on Solar Panels imported from China

57. Japan Freezes North Korea's Assets after Trump's Visit

58. U.S. Trade Deficit falls to 11-month low

59. Trump Fights for 'America First' as 4th Round of NAFTA Negotiations End

60. Crude Oil Shipment to India Highlights Expanding Energy Partnership

61. Trump Blocks China from buying Semi-Conductor company, Lattice

62. Crude oil shipment from Texas opens new vistas in India-U.S. ties

63. Argentina agrees to allow first U.S. pork imports in 25 years

64. Trump orders probe of China's intellectual property practices

65. New memorandum to protect American IPs from China - Potentially save
Billions of dollars and millions in jobs

66. Coal exports up 60%

67. China opens rice market for US exports for first time ever

68. U.S. makes final finding rebar exports from Taiwan

69. Renegotiating NAFTA with Canada and Mexico in order to make better trade
deals - May terminate

70. United States and Mexico finalize sugar trade deal

71. First U.S. Natural Gas Shipped to Poland

72. Signed an Arms Deal worth more than $350 billion and various other
investment agreements with Saudi Arabia

73. China, U.S. reach trade agreement on beef, poultry and natural gas

74. Trump orders a study on abuses of U.S. trade agreements - WTO

75. Trump slaps tariffs on Canadian lumber imports

76. Increased tariffs on Canadian lumber by 20% (worth $1 billion)

77. China buys more U.S. coal, sends North Korea

78. Trans Pacific Partnership (TPP) TERMINATED

79. Nikki Haley negotiates $285M cut in 'bloated' UN budget

80. WIC Welfare Participation Hits 17-Year Low

81. U.S. home sales hit 11-year high

82. Manufacturing Optimism Reaches Another All-Time High - 94.6%

83. Economy adds 228K jobs in November

84. Mining up 28.6% - Leads the Nation in Growth

85. Broadcom will move back to U.S. - and bring tax money with it

86. US private sector added 235,000 jobs in Oct - Beats Expectations

87. Consumer confidence highest level since December 2000

88. Q3 GDP at 3 Percent - Beats Expectations

89. Ivanka Trump creates new World Bank initiative to foster
Entrepreneurship among Women

90. Consumer Sentiment in U.S. Surges to 13-Year High

91. 63.1%: Participation Rate Reaches Trump-Era High

92. Unemployment down to 4.2, wages rise .5%

93. New entrants from outside the labor market made up 3.2

94. U.S. Factories Expanding at 13 Year high

95. Dow posting first eight-quarter winning streak in 20 years

96. Home builder confidence at 12-year high

97. Manufacturer confidence at a 20-year high

98. Tech giants pledge millions to Trump initiative

99. Q2 GDP up 3.1%

100. Sales of new U.S. homes rebounded in August

101. Federal Reserve: Household Wealth in America at record high of $1.7
trillion - Rising property values and Financial gain

102. Surging stock market powers U.S. wealth to $96.2 trillion

103. Food Stamp Usage Has Fallen Every Month Under Trump

104. Median Incomes Climbing for First Time Since 2007

105. Trump has signed a $15 billion relief package for Texas in the wake of
Hurricane Harvey

106. Jobless claims drop to 240,000 - hottest streak in 43 years

107. U.S. Consumer Sentiment Rose in August

108. Recovery Is Finally Trickling Down to Least-Educated Workers

109. U.S. Job Satisfaction Highest Level Since 2005

110. American manufacturing expanded in August at fastest pace in six years

111. Donald Trump Ends Obama Effort to Waive Work Requirements for Welfare

112. Consumer confidence strengthens in August, second-highest level since
late 2000

113. President Trump Cuts More US Debt for a Longer Period of Time Than Any
President

114. Pennsylvania coal company to open a SECOND coal mine

115. Summer Youth Unemployment Falls, Level Since 1969

116. In Trump era, American corporations are seeing their best earnings in 13
years

117. US trade deficit narrows as exports hit 2-1/2-year high

118. Milestone for Trump: 1 million new jobs in six months

119. National unemployment rate at 4.3% (lowest it's been in 16 years)

120. 13,000 jobs being created in WI - largest job announcement in WI history
(Foxconn)

121. Black Unemployment, Lowest Level in 17 Years

122. Gas prices at a 12-year low

123. Some states are experiencing their lowest unemployment rates in their
histories

124. Trump Announces $200 Million in Apprenticeship Funding

125. U.S. has record 6 million job openings, 6.8 million Americans are
looking for jobs

126. CEO confidence highest since 2014

127. U.S. jobless rate falls to lowest level in 16 years

128. Trump signs bills that helps Veterans and Police officers by giving them
Priority and Training

129. Government spending as percentage of GDP down

130. 1000s of jobs being created through pact with Saudi Arabia

131. Executive Order on the Establishment of the American Technology Council

132. USA's small business confidence is spurring a hiring and spending spree

133. Alibaba Takes First Step To Fulfilling Jack Ma And President Trump's
'One Million U.S. Jobs' Promise

134. Slashing job-killing regulations left and right

135. Creating thousands of more jobs for immigration officers and border
patrol

136. Signed a resolution encouraging women in entrepreneurship and STEM

137. Executive ordered all federal agencies to create task forces to cut
regulations that hurt the economy

138. US Manufacturing Index at a 33-year high

139. Coal Miners are WINNING. Cut Regulations/Create Jobs/New Plant

140. US Economic Confidence Surges To Highest Level Ever Recorded By Gallup

Economy:

Best Economic Optimism in 16 years

480,000 Manufacturing Jobs added since President Trump's election

US job openings rise outnumber the unemployed by 1 million

Economic Growth Has Reached 3 Percent for the First Time in More than a Decade

Opportunity Zones A New Dawn for Economic Opportunity

Unemployment Rate Falls to Lowest Level in Nearly 50 Years

Proclamation on Adjusting Imports of Steel into the United States

LARGEST DECLINE IN DRUG PRICES IN NEARLY 50 YEARS

Trump Policies Keep Economic Boom Going As Job Gains of 304000 Surpass
Expectations

MORE AMERICANS WORKING NOW THAN EVER BEFORE IN OUR HISTORY

250K JOBS ADDED IN OCTOBER

Manufacturing Confidence at an ALL TIME HIGH

Construction Jobs up more than 300K compared to last year

Food Stamp usage declines for 8 straight months

Middle Class income rises to HIGHEST on record

Consumer Confidence 18 YEAR HIGH

America is now the worlds largest oil producer

Fastest growing pace in 14 years for manufacturers

BLACK UNEMPLOYMENT RECORD LOW

Jobless claims lowest level since 1969

Trump secures 2026 World Cup for the USA

Consumer Confidence Highest in 18 years

Black Business Ownership Under Trump JUMPS 400 PERCENT in ONE YEAR

Youth Unemployment Hits 52 Year Low

Black Support for Trump DOUBLES to 29 percent

RECORD Number of Employed - 63 Percent labor participation

Worker pay rate hits highest level since 2008

Black and Hispanic Unemployment rates hit record low in April

Business Investments up 39 Percent Due to Tax Cuts

Food Stamp Usage Drops Half Million in Single Month

Highest Ever Manufacturer Optimism over 94 Percent

Unemployment claims have fallen to a 45-year low

Trump Economy Explodes Record Number of Americans Employed Stocks Soar

FEB JOBS BLOWOUT 313K

GREAT AGAIN Household Net Worth Pushes Further Into Record Territory

U.S. Consumer Confidence Is at 17-Year High

US homebuilding permits soar to highest level since 2007

Economy to grow at 5.4% rate in first quarter

Roaring: Economic Optimism Index hits 13-year high, credit to tax cuts

U.S. jobless claims drop to near 45-year low

Wages jump to highest level since 2009 - up 2.9%

U.S. Oil Production Tops 10 Million Barrels A Day, First Time Since 1970

Trump Decreases Debt to GDP Ratio - First Time in Over 50 Years!

Jobless claims drop to lowest level in nearly 45 years

Apple to Invest $350 BILLION in US citing Trump Tax Plan

Utilities cutting rates, cite benefits of Trump tax reform

Over 100 companies giving 'Trump Bonuses' after tax victory

Black unemployment rate falls to record low

Trump adds 184,000 manufacturing jobs and continues growth trend

Manufacturing in the U.S. Just Accelerated to Its Best Year Since 2004

Trump Signs Korean Trade Deal

Trump Blocks Chinese Purchase of Qualcomm due to National Security

TRUMP SIGNS TARIFF ORDER ON STEEL AND ALUMINUM

Trump Slaps 30% Tariffs on Solar Panels imported from China

Japan Freezes North Korea's Assets after Trump's Visit

U.S. Trade Deficit falls to 11-month low

Trump Fights for 'America First' as 4th Round of NAFTA Negotiations End

Crude Oil Shipment to India Highlights Expanding Energy Partnership

Trump Blocks China from buying Semi-Conductor company, Lattice

Crude oil shipment from Texas opens new vistas in India-U.S. ties

Argentina agrees to allow first U.S. pork imports in 25 years

Trump orders probe of China's intellectual property practices

New memorandum to protect American IPs from China - Potentially save Billions
of dollars and millions in jobs

Coal exports up 60%

China opens rice market for US exports for first time ever

U.S. makes final finding rebar exports from Taiwan

Renegotiating NAFTA with Canada and Mexico in order to make better trade deals
- May terminate

United States and Mexico finalize sugar trade deal

First U.S. Natural Gas Shipped to Poland

Signed an Arms Deal worth more than $350 billion and various other investment
agreements with Saudi Arabia

China, U.S. reach trade agreement on beef, poultry and natural gas

Trump orders a study on abuses of U.S. trade agreements - WTO

Trump slaps tariffs on Canadian lumber imports

Increased tariffs on Canadian lumber by 20% (worth $1 billion)

China buys more U.S. coal, sends North Korea

Trans Pacific Partnership (TPP) TERMINATED

Nikki Haley negotiates $285M cut in 'bloated' UN budget

WIC Welfare Participation Hits 17-Year Low

U.S. home sales hit 11-year high

Manufacturing Optimism Reaches Another All-Time High - 94.6%

Economy adds 228K jobs in November

Mining up 28.6% - Leads the Nation in Growth

Broadcom will move back to U.S. - and bring tax money with it

US private sector added 235,000 jobs in Oct - Beats Expectations

Consumer confidence highest level since December 2000

Q3 GDP at 3 Percent - Beats Expectations

Ivanka Trump creates new World Bank initiative to foster Entrepreneurship
among Women

Consumer Sentiment in U.S. Surges to 13-Year High

63.1%: Participation Rate Reaches Trump-Era High

Unemployment down to 4.2, wages rise .5%

New entrants from outside the labor market made up 3.2

U.S. Factories Expanding at 13 Year high

Dow posting first eight-quarter winning streak in 20 years

Home builder confidence at 12-year high

Manufacturer confidence at a 20-year high

Tech giants pledge millions to Trump initiative

Q2 GDP up 3.1%

Sales of new U.S. homes rebounded in August

Federal Reserve: Household Wealth in America at record high of $1.7 trillion -
Rising property values and Financial gain

Surging stock market powers U.S. wealth to $96.2 trillion

Food Stamp Usage Has Fallen Every Month Under Trump

Median Incomes Climbing for First Time Since 2007

Trump has signed a $15 billion relief package for Texas in the wake of
Hurricane Harvey

Jobless claims drop to 240,000 - hottest streak in 43 years

U.S. Consumer Sentiment Rose in August

Recovery Is Finally Trickling Down to Least-Educated Workers

U.S. Job Satisfaction Highest Level Since 2005

American manufacturing expanded in August at fastest pace in six years

Donald Trump Ends Obama Effort to Waive Work Requirements for Welfare

Consumer confidence strengthens in August, second-highest level since late
2000

President Trump Cuts More US Debt for a Longer Period of Time Than Any
President

Pennsylvania coal company to open a SECOND coal mine

Summer Youth Unemployment Falls, Level Since 1969

In Trump era, American corporations are seeing their best earnings in 13 years

US trade deficit narrows as exports hit 2-1/2-year high

Milestone for Trump: 1 million new jobs in six months

National unemployment rate at 4.3% (lowest it's been in 16 years)

13,000 jobs being created in WI - largest job announcement in WI history
(Foxconn)

Black Unemployment, Lowest Level in 17 Years

Gas prices at a 12-year low

Some states are experiencing their lowest unemployment rates in their
histories

Trump Announces $200 Million in Apprenticeship Funding

U.S. has record 6 million job openings, 6.8 million Americans are looking for
jobs

CEO confidence highest since 2014

U.S. jobless rate falls to lowest level in 16 years

Trump signs bills that helps Veterans and Police officers by giving them
Priority and Training

Government spending as percentage of GDP down

1000s of jobs being created through pact with Saudi Arabia

Executive Order on the Establishment of the American Technology Council

USA's small business confidence is spurring a hiring and spending spree

Alibaba Takes First Step To Fulfilling Jack Ma And President Trump's 'One
Million U.S. Jobs' Promise

Slashing job-killing regulations left and right

Creating thousands of more jobs for immigration officers and border patrol

Signed a resolution encouraging women in entrepreneurship and STEM

Executive ordered all federal agencies to create task forces to cut
regulations that hurt the economy

US Manufacturing Index at a 33-year high

Coal Miners are WINNING. Cut Regulations/Create Jobs/New Plant

US Economic Confidence Surges To Highest Level Ever Recorded By Gallup

[AlleyCat]

On Mon, 9 Dec 2024 11:30:09 -0800, Janithor says...

x-no-archive: yes

Remember when he was a dictator? Remember when he took away all our
rights? Remember when the country fell apart?
Yea, neither do I.

Give it time.

Why didn't it happen then?

The man has orange skin.  He's bad.  Do the math.

OK.

1 + 1 = you're a child if you think like that.

And get help with that TDS.

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Trump WINS!

Donald Trump is the 47th U.S. president, defeating Vice President Kamala
Harris.

Republican Donald Trump was elected President of the United States in the 2024
election, defeating Vice President Kamala Harris.

Trump, 78, will begin his second term early next year.

Donald Trump will be inaugurated as the U.S. President on Monday, January 20,
2025, on the West Front of the U.S. Capitol in Washington, D.C.

A Second Trump Administration

==============================================================================

"Trump Derangement Syndrome" Is a Real Mental Condition

All you need to know about "Trump Derangement Syndrome," or TDS.

"Trump Derangement Syndrome (TDS) is a mental condition in which a person has
been driven effectively insane due to their dislike of Donald Trump, to the
point at which they will abandon all logic and reason."

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Nym-Shifetr's toddler behaviour:

A) Someone's psychological or emotional age is often evident in emotional
reactions and habits.

B) Signs of emotional toddler behaviour include emotional escalations,
blaming, lies, and name-calling.

C) Someone who is an emotionally Toddler may also have poor impulse control,
need to be the center of attention, or ENGAGE IN BULLYING.

1. Emotional escalations

2. Blaming

3. Lies

4. Name-calling

5. Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control"

6. Need to be the center of attention

7. Bullying

8. Budding narcissism

9. Immature defenses

10. No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from
their mistakes

How can you assess if an adult functions emotionally more like a toddler? As a
therapist who works extensively with couples, I have learned that almost any
client can look reasonably "adult" when I meet with him or her individually.

By contrast, seeing the same client in a couples therapy session where spouses
are interacting gives me vastly more data. Mistaken, immature, and
pathological behaviors all become much more visible. I also see the extent to
which each partner's actions are rude, hurtful, or even dangerously
Toddlerish-or calm, respectful, and maturely adult.


What Is Emotional Age?

A psychologist from Africa with whom I once spoke at an international
psychology conference explained to me that in his country, it was common to
assess people in terms of both physical age and emotional age.

Physical age can be counted by number of birthdays. Physical age, especially
with toddlers, also tends to correlate with height, strength, and cognitive
functioning. Psychological or emotional age, by contrast, becomes evident in
emotional reactions and habits. For instance, adults can stay calm whereas
toddler tend to be quicker to anger. Adults exercise careful judgment before
talking whereas toddler may impulsively blurt out tactless, hurtful words.

If toddlers want a car or doll that another toddler is playing with, they are
likely to reach out and take the item. Most preschoolers get mad or cry
multiple times every day, even if they are basically well-nurtured and happy
kids. The rules of adult play, like taking turns or not grabbing, have not yet
begun to shape their behavior. Youngsters do not act in a consistently civil
manner because they have not yet internalized the rules of "civilized" adults.

Behaviors that are normal for toddler however, look Toddlerish and rude when
adults do them.


CAN YOU RECOGNIZE TODDLERISH ADULT BEHAVIOR?

One way to think about how young toddler differ from emotionally mature adults
is to picture kids you know-maybe even your own toddler, grandtoddler, nieces,
nephews, and neighbors. How do these toddler differ from adults that you know
and respect?

Before reading my list of characteristics that I look for, you might want to
jot down a list of the traits that you noticed in your visualization. Please
share with other readers in the comments below this article if you spotted
some traits that I missed.


10 SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL TODDLER BEHAVIOUR

How many of the following signs of emotional immaturity does your list
include?

Emotional escalations: Young toddlers often cry, get mad, or outwardly appear
petulant and pouting. Grownups seldom do.

Blaming: When things go wrong, young toddler look to blame someone. Grownups
look to fix the problem.

Lies: When there's a situation that's uncomfortable, young toddler might lie
to stay out of trouble. Grownups deal with reality, reliably speaking the
truth.

Name-calling: toddler call each other names. Adults seek to understand issues.
Adults do not make ad hominen attacks, that is, attacks on people's personal
traits. Instead, they attack the problem. They do not disrespect others with
mean labels.

There is one exception. Sometimes adults, just like firefighters who battle
forest fires, have to fight fire with fire. They may need to use "fire" to
manage an angry toddler or an out-of-bounds adult, in order to get them to
cease their bad behavior.

Impulsivity-or as therapists say, "poor impulse control": toddler strike out
impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They speak recklessly or take
impulsive action without pausing to think about the potential consequences.
Similarly, instead of listening to others' viewpoints, they impulsively
interrupt them.

Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out hurtful words or actions.
They calm themselves. They then think through the problem, seeking more
information and analyzing options.

Again, some instances of acting on impulse can be hallmarks of mature
behavior. Soldiers and police, for instance, are trained to discriminate
rapidly between harmless and dangerous situations so that they can respond
quickly enough to protect potential victims of criminal actions.

Need to be the center of attention: Ever tried to have adult dinner
conversations with a two-year-old at the table? Did attempts to launch a
discussion with others at the table result in the toddler getting fussy?

Bullying: A toddler who is physically larger than other toddler his age can
walk up to another child who is playing with a toy he would like and simply
take it. The other child may say nothing lest the bully turns on them with
hostility. In many cases, it's safer just to let a bully have what he wants.
Adults, on the other hand, respect boundaries: Yours is yours and mine is
mine.

Budding narcissism: In an earlier post, I coined the term tall man syndrome
for one way that narcissism can develop. If toddler-or adults-can get whatever
they want because they are bigger, stronger, or richer, they become at risk of
learning that the rules don't apply to them. Whatever they want, they take.
This narcissistic tendency may initially look like strength. But in reality,
it reflects a serious weakness: being unable to see beyond the self.

Psychologically strong people listen to others, hoping to understand others'
feelings, concerns and preferences. Narcissists hear only themselves and are
emotionally brittle as a result. They operate like toddler who want to stay
out and play-even though dinner is on the table-and who pitch a fit rather
than heed their parent's explanation that the family is eating now. Their
mindset, in short, is "It's all about me." In the eyes of a narcissist, no one
else counts; if they don't get their way, they may result to pouting or
bullying in order to do so.

Immature defenses: Freud coined the term defense mechanisms for ways in which
individuals protect themselves and/or get what they want. Adults use defense
mechanisms like listening to others' concerns as well as to their own. They
then engage in collaborative problem-solving. These responses to difficulties
signal psychological maturity. toddler tend to regard the best defense as a
strong offense. While that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking
anyone who expresses a viewpoint different from what they want is, in life, a
primitive defense mechanism.

Another primitive defense is denial: "I didn't say that!" or "I never did
that!" when in fact they did say or do the thing they claim not to have done.
Sound toddler-like to you?

No observing ego-that is, no ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their
mistakes: When emotionally mature adults "lose their cool" and express anger
inappropriately, they soon after, with their "observing ego," realize that
their outburst was inappropriate. That is, they can see with hindsight that
their behavior was out of line with their value system. They can see if their
outburst has been, as therapists say, ego dystonic (against their value
system).

Adults who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behavior
toward others, or who have not developed ability to observe their behaviors to
judge what's in line and what's out of line, see their anger as normal. They
regard their emotional outbursts as ego syntonic, that is, perfectly fine,
justifying them by blaming the other person. In other words, "I only did it
because you made me."

If you or someone you know functions more like a toddler than like a grown-up,
what are your options?

It's easy to love toddler who act like toddler. It's harder to love someone
who acts like a toddler in the body of a grownup. Still, most toddler-like
adults only act like Toddlers when they feel under threat.

Therefore, if you love someone who has Toddler-like sides, one strategy is to
focus primarily on the more adult and attractive aspects of the person. If you
are the toddler-like one, love your strengths-and pay attention to growing in
your less mature habit areas.

Another strategy is to cease being surprised when the Toddler-like patterns
emerge. Thinking, "I can't believe that s/he/I did that!" signifies that you
have not yet accepted the reality of the toddler-like behaviors. Accepting
that the behaviors do occur is a first and vital step toward change.

Third, if you are the receiver of Toddler-like behaviors, beware of trying to
change the other person. Instead, figure out what you can do differently so
those patterns will no longer be problematic for you. Your job is to keep
growing yourself, not to change others.

Lastly, learn the skills of adult functioning. Much of what grown-up
"toddler" do can be considered as a skills deficit. If you tend to be Toddler-
like, learning adult skills can move you into grownup-ville. My book and
workbook called The Power of Two should help as well.

And if you generally function as a grownup, the more clear you are about what
constitutes grown-up behavior, the more you will be able to stay a grownup-
even when you are interacting with someone who is acting like a toddler.

Susan Heitler, Ph.D.