Post by AlleyCatPost by ***@man.BallDid and done, just go back and read the threading you deny, liar.
He's too stupid to keep up in a thread. He has ZERO recollection.
That's why he's always ASKING for help... he's helpless.
He's also a clinically depressed bi-polar pussy.
Just toy with him and give him nothing. It's a game to make him feel
better about his fucked up life and mentality.
Most narcissists are that way. If they can't win, they play the game.
That makes them feel superior when superiority can't be won outright.
Just give as he does, meaning, don't give him a thing. He hates it.
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Have you ever wondered how to make a Alan, the narcissist, miserable
and what makes him afraid or triggered? (maybe for a second... then
it's gone)
Just for the record, trying to make Alan, the narcissist, miserable
might have its place for a short period of time, but I don't
recommend focusing on it for too long as this will inevitably get old.
But, if you need a quik fix, let's get into the top things all
narcissists, like Alan, hate.
How to Make Alan, the narcissist, Miserable
Lack Of Acknowledgment: (filter on ignore)
Even though he KNOWS he's being ignored, he continues to reply, as if
ANYONE really cares, other than himself. THAT is narcissism.
It's no secret that most narcissists, like Alan, revel in admiration
and validation (except for 'closet narcissists', like Alan). Alan
depends on constant approval to maintain his sense of intrinsic
worth. To achieve this goal, he TRIES to absorb (or steal) the energy
of other people.
"Prove it."
Do you ever wonder why narcissists, like Alan, don't seem to mind the
negative attention? It's because negative attention also fuels his
narcissistic fire.
ANY attention, even NEGATIVE attention, IS STILL ATTENTION, and any
form of attention gives him the incentive to keep going. It gives him
the motivation to keep proving himself (by making others prove
THEMSELVES.
In fact, he often likes negative attention better, because if you're
still amused by his emotional crimes, he can try to exploit this.
Therefore, a lack of acknowledgment is the real threat. To Alan, the
narcissist, indifference is even more of an issue than hatred. Alan's
rather you have a negative opinion than have no opinion at all.
(sick fuck)
Narcissists, like Alan, can't stand it when no one is paying
attention to him. Alan doesn't know how to feel important or special
if he isn't the center of the universe or consuming someone's
thoughts. This is also why the traditional Grey Rock method is often
pointless and why complete avoidance is the best route (or extreme
modified contact... just ignore the sick fuck).
Have you ever paid close attention to how Alan, the narcissist,
speaks? He ALWAYS trying to belittle those he THINKS are below his
station.
Additionally, through the use of cognitive empathy, he's spent his
entire life observing the emotional language of other people,
ESPECIALLY RUSSIAN SPORTS OFFICIALS and using it to his advantage.
So, when you speak in facts instead of using emotion, he intuitively
understands he has less of an upper hand.
Therefore, he hates it when someone challenges him with facts instead
of emotion. Alan will usually retaliate with more arguing or
hysteria. PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT!
This childish response simply shows that he feel out-of-control.
Alan's attempt to elevate the conversation's intensity by throwing an
emotional temper tantrum. PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT!
PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT!
If anything, this dynamic only highlights the narcissist's
immaturity. His inability to absorb facts demonstrates his
incompetence in approaching most adult interactions.
Narcissists, like Alan, detest authority. That's because he resents
having to answer to anybody but himself (mommy orders him around,
further compounding his anger).
"Ski lifts are closed... too much snow." Bu bu but snow is just a
thing of the past, Alan says, even though we're seeing snow levels we
saw in the 70s, when CO² was MUCH lower.
Any sense of authority threatens his inherent desire for power and
control. "You can't ski here, bunny."
While narcissists, like Alan, can be intelligent, he often come
across as combative and unfit in professional environments. If
confronted by his inappropriate behavior, he tends to deny or
rationalize his part. PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE
IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT! PROVE IT!
Of course, it's no surprise that most authority figures dislike
working with narcissists, like Alan. Supervisors (LOL) find him
unruly and unreasonable.
Alan can't understand why the person can't follow basic directions
without such volatile reactions.
Of all things, Alan, the narcissist, hates being told no (and
actually following through with it) tops the list. Narcissists, like
Alan, are used to manipulating and weaseling his way into getting
what he wants.
Often, he'll pull all the stops to accomplish this task. He's spent
his whole life charming people to meet his needs.
That's why telling him no, and being adamant on your stance, often
causes such an angry reaction. Alan, the narcissist, isn't just upset
about the denial - he's downright confused by it!
Narcissists, like Alan, can't actually fathom why someone would
refuse him. Because he lacks real empathy, he can't understand what
must be going on in your mind. Moreover, even if he tries to
comprehend it, he refuses to accept this reality.
Have you ever tried to set a boundary with Alan, the narcissist,? How
well did it go? Most likely, you tried to implement a limit, and he
Dismissing you altogether and gas-lighting your feelings,
acknowledging his mistake (LOL), and then doing nothing to change.
Narcissists, like Alan, can't accept any real consequences. Alan
can't see when he's wrong, and he can't understand how someone would
ever think he's wrong. And even if the narcissist understood this, he
simply wouldn't care. As a result, he tends to react
disproportionately to boundaries and serious conversations as a means
to intimidate you and force you into compliance.
Unfortunately, many people simply give up on trying to implement
consequences with narcissists, like Alan.
(filters set to ignorte)
Narcissists, like Alan, can resemble toddlers, in that he tend to be
extremely sore losers. Alan struggles to accept losing, and he also
Alan repeatedly proclaims a person on Usenet is incompetent. Alan's
attempt to defame or humiliate the winner. Alan pretends he didn't
care about winning. Alan insists that he "let the other person" take
the spotlight. Alan refuses to accept that he lost and awkwardly acts
as if he's the actual winner.
Because narcissists, like Alan, are sore losers, he can't handle real
or perceived public humiliation. Alan just can't tolerate the threat
of failure. To him, public humiliation is the ultimate form of
defeat.
(and THAT'S why he HAS to be the last poster in a thread, if he has
felt that he's been slighted, in the least)
We all know that narcissists, like Alan, have incredibly fragile
egos. When he believes someone is making fun of him or if he's not
the perceived expert or authority in a public setting, it jolts his
existence. As a result, he'll do anything to protect his fragile ego.
Laughing it off in public only to lash out later
Making up lies about anyone who is a real expert. ("Dr. Ian Clark is
not a REAL climatologist!!!")
Expectations of Commitment
Most narcissists, like Alan, are terrible with commitment. Although
he believes he deserves all senses of loyalty, he doesn't usually
provide it himself. As a result, when he gets into relationships
(mommy only), he doesn't consider her needs. He's only accounting for
his own emotions, impulses, and desires.
Unfortunately, his mother holds onto wistful hope about her
narcissist changing. She listens to how the narcissist praises and
adores her. She holds onto fleeting promises that this time will be
different.
Yet, Alan, the narcissist makes all the rules. Alan decides what he
wants to do, and he does it when he wants to do it. Therefore, he can
break and change the rules in ways that suits him.
Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it! Prove it!
Prove it! Prove it! Prove it!
How many friends does your narcissist have? Probably very few (more
like NONE). Usually, his only friends are other people who validate
his narcissism, like mommy.
Subsequently, how often do you hear Alan complain about other people?
(ALL THE TIME) More times than you can count, probably! That's
because a single wrongdoing often results in lifetime resentment. One
mistake tarnishes an entire reputation.
Narcissists, like Alan, struggle to get along with anyone who doesn't
fit into his falsified worldview. Alan can't stand to be challenged.
Alan can't tolerate the ideas that other people may know more than
him.
If he's a cerebral narcissist, he is convinced that he is unique and
should only associate with other special or high-status individuals.
In fact, when confronted with anything that contradicts his sense of
god-like stature, you can bet that his reaction will be explosive and
malicious.
Therefore, narcissists, like Alan, can't tolerate people who actually
live in reality. That's why you rarely see people with strong
boundaries tolerating narcissists, like Alan, for very long.
Narcissists, like Alan, hate change when it's out of his control.
When you challenge Alan, the narcissist, he remains in a defeating
pattern full of resentment and frustration, lashing out to make
himself feel dominate.
Prove it!
I did.
